Is Your Relationship in
Danger Because of Stress?
By Alan B. Densky, CH
Stress is a normal part of daily life. In fact, without a small amount of stress, our bodies wouldn't function. Yes, our lives actually depend on stress! If stress is good for us, how do we know how much is enough - and how much is too much?
Stress is so normal that we actually come to depend on it to help us with the everyday activities of our lives. For example, if people didn't feel some stress and anxiety about their grades, they would not be motivated to perform well in school. Likewise, without being a little anxious about paying bills, eating, and housing, people would not be concerned about getting employment or doing their jobs well.
Too much stress, however can be damaging to our health and relationships. Excessive worrying can cause a person's body to produce chemicals that cause high blood pressure, lessen pain tolerance, and even delay healing. People with high stress levels become ill more easily and get well more slowly. They aren't able to perform their jobs as effectively or concentrate as intently on course work and exams.
Excessive stress can damage personal relationships as well as business relationships. People who are coping with high levels of anxiety are often irritable from lack of sleep, and have a lower tolerance for a family member's little faults. Persons who are under high levels of stress may find it much more difficult to control their tempers or say things tactfully.
This often leads to harsh or unkind words. The person who is under high levels of stress may or may not realize just how much someone else might be affected by these words. If he or she does not recognize how much the words hurt, further misunderstandings can result, and the relationship can be permanently hurt by this situation.
People who are dating are under high levels of stress as each is working to convince the other that he or she is attractive, interesting, and appealing. Usually, people who are irritable and cranky are not appealing to others. If you are considering entering a dating relationship, but are at a stressful point in your life, it may be wise to think about waiting until your stress is resolved, or getting some help in relieving your anxiety.
If you are already in a relationship that you value, however, avoiding interacting with the person while you are feeling stressed is probably not a good choice. Finding relief from the stress is probably a more desirable choice than getting out of the relationship altogether. But where can you turn?
When it comes to dealing with stress, people have a number of options from which to choose. Some people opt for medications that help to relieve anxiety. These medicines, however, can cause sleepiness or drowsiness, and often affect a person's ability to work and concentrate as well.
Other people, realizing the extent of their stress levels, decide to seek assistance from a professional. Many opt for expensive group or individual therapies. While these approaches can help, they are expensive and time-consuming. Making spare time for keeping treatment appointments can add to the daily stress in a person's already busy life.
Some people choose to try hypnosis to help them decrease their stress levels. Hypnosis is an excellent tool for relieving anxiety and stress. As a matter of fact, the essence of hypnosis is relaxation!
There are a lot of misconceptions about hypnosis. The most prevalent are:
A. Hypnosis is sleep. This is false, actually hypnosis is the opposite of sleep, and it is a state of keen awareness where you are wide-awake and aware of everything around you.
B. You cannot be made to divulge your secrets.
C. You cannot be made to do anything against your will.
There are many different forms of hypnosis, so choosing the right methodology can be confusing.
Traditional hypnosis relies on the hypnotist giving the client post-hypnotic suggestions. This can be effective, but it usually only works for people who find it easy to accept suggestions from others without questioning why or how. Most people who are experiencing high levels of stress in their lives, however, do not fit into this category.
A more sophisticated form of hypnosis is Ericksonian Hypnotherapy, named after Milton Erickson, MD, the father of modern hypnosis. This form of hypnosis is highly effective for today's analytical personality because it hides the suggestions to the unconscious mind within conversation, stories, and metaphors.
A newer, more revolutionary alternative for people who tend to over analyze things and try to solve their problems through critical thinking is Neuro-Linguistic Programming, or NLP. This approach allows people to eliminate stress by using techniques that are easy to learn and implement. People actually learn to program their mind for relaxation, and become much calmer, by training their unconscious to use the very same thought processes that caused their stress, as triggers to eliminate it.
While Ericksonian Hypnosis and NLP are very effective, people often do not have the spare time or money to visit a qualified consulting hypnotist and learn these techniques. For this reason, self-hypnosis and NLP experts have created a number of CDs to help people learn and practice these techniques at home.
Stress affects everyone, and too much stress can be harmful to a person's health and relationships. Most people are willing to do everything reasonably possible to keep relationships with family, friends, and loved ones as healthy as possible. Finding workable solutions for treating stress, such as NLP or hypnotherapy approaches, is much less expensive, and painful, than losing a friend or a spouse. Read more about the advantages of stress relief today!
©2007 By Alan B. Densky, CH.
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